Please keep sharing

Receiving these messages always makes me smile plus shed some tears, good tears because I know this means a family may not share our experience. Please take your health seriously!

"I did want to say thanks for another reason. After what happened to you and your family and the message you ARE getting out, I made an appt with my Dr to get checked out. I try and look after myself, but a few beer too many and lots of fast food hasnt been kind. I had a few slightl...y odd things going on, dizzy spells, blurred vision chest pains. Ive always had good BP and never thought anything about it. I went through all the tests and found my BP was really high, stupid high. 140/100 on a good day. I was put on Meds to help. I dont like medications so I decided I had to change. Ive since changed my eating as best I can, exercising and drinking a ton of water. Im feeling better and the BP is getting better. I would have never even considered being checked if it wasnt for you. I thank you....I share Peter's story to anyone that I feel would benefit. Not to get long winded but I shared your experience and forwarded Peter's Story to a guy I worked with that was having chest pains I think from stress. He took the advice and got checked out. All was ok and he changed his life style. I admire your strength and perseverance. So thank you for everything."

Signs of a Heart Attack

Be aware of specific signs & symptoms of a Heart attack.  You could save a life!

The one about Signs

You can’t always write about topics that will peak the interest of readers but I am hoping that most will take an interest in this one.  Usually I like to use humor to state a point or to make others laugh because we all know we need a bit more laughter in our world. 

These words do not contain much laughter but rather a little reminder and a kick in the butt of something important.

Recently I have been touched by stories of individuals making an effort in understanding the signs of a heart attack.  Most may get sick of me pushing my message but I will continue my march towards further education and awareness in hopes of creating a bigger impact on many individuals who shared the same mindset as I did in the past.

The “it won’t happen to me” mindset.

I wanted to share some valuable information regarding the signs my husband experienced before he passed away of a heart attack and dive deep into a bit more details.  Did my husband experience multiple symptoms?  Yes he did.  

 Prior to any of this happening we both had the “it won’t happen to me” mentality.  I believe most of us deal with the same mindset and are frightened of the “what if”.  We may also feel like it simply isn’t a big deal.

Please read and understand clearly what my husband experienced so you can be fully aware.


Let me stress…. UNUSUAL!  The level of fatigue my husband experienced was completely out of character for him.  As his fatigue would increase, his level of physical activity would decrease.  In my eyes, his fatigue was due to lack of activity but the lack of activity was due to fatigue.  There was never a question of “why”. 

This is such an important point to consider.  If you know of someone who is dealing with a level of fatigue that is completely inappropriate for their character please recognize the possibility that something isn’t quite right.  Finding my husband napping in the middle of the day wasn’t normal.  Or him missing out on our annual Halloween trick-or-treating because he was “too tired” to even walk with his kids just seemed like an excuse to stay home.  If you feel something just isn’t right, it probably isn’t.  This is where the change of mindset comes in.


My husband was never one who would experience heartburn and to this day I do not recall him suffering from t much other than the morning he passed away.  It was brought on by physical activity and I will never forget the discomfort in his voice when he asked for Rolaids in the middle of the night.  Because I had always considered him fit and healthy, in my sleepiness I never thought the worst.  Even though in my professional career, it was hammered home to me for over 20 years that heartburn may be a sign of a heart attack, I never thought it would hit my family.


Would I ever think this is a sign?  Probably not but Peter regularly was awakened early in the morning or throughout the night unable to sleep.  How would we process this?  Lack of activity = less sleep.  Lack of activity = increased fatigue.  Increased fatigue = lack of activity (but we never asked why?)

It would never happen to us!


I will never forget our last mountain bike ride together or our last run.  He physically could not keep up.  That last mountain bike ride had him complaining that his chest hurt once we returned home.  He showered and immediately feel asleep on the couch.

Our last run together had him turn around and head home only a couple km into the run as I continued on.  How did we process this?  Lack of activity = hard workout.  Hard workout = chest discomfort.  Chest discomfort = lack of activity. 

It would never happen to us!

It all looks so crystal clear now!

Living with Grief

It has been absolutely amazing to hear stories of individuals who have taken the important steps to see their doctor and change their lifestyle.  Please keep sharing Peters Story because each share has the potential to educate even more people to do the same.  Saving a life can happen with just one share!

I do know that many people still share the mentality that Peter and I did.  That it would never happen and there was so much time left to take those important steps.  I also think there is a line that many people do not cross when it comes to encountering grief.  It can be an uncomfortable, awkward situation if you are not going through it. 

Why do I think it’s important to share this article?  Because if the story hasn’t hit home yet, I am hoping sharing the pain does.  I am hoping that by sharing what my family now lives through, that it will light a fire under those who still don’t appreciate the importance of this story.

Before this experience, I had no concrete idea how or what people were going through when dealing with grief at this magnitude.  And daily life just takes you away in your own little world.  Everything that is not in front of your face just seems very distant so understanding another person’s grief can be very foreign.

Let me take you through a day in the life.  Not for anyone to feel sorry, but to simply make you understand that this could be you.  I wouldn't wish these feelings on anyone.  You have the chance to make a different ending to your story!

Life is like the movie “Groundhog day”.  You wake up each morning repeating every devastating detail over and over again.  You cannot change a thing.  Each day feels like someone has kicked you in the stomach, a nauseous feeling that you cannot do anything about.  You feel like you are completely out of control because emotions run their own course.  You have no control over the tears, the sadness, the anger, the fear and each emotion will show its face on its own time.  The days are spent sobbing and wondering how the hell you can live the rest of your life like this, without the person you love.  Then one day, you will get the feeling that maybe you can survive and you can get through this but as soon as that feeling shows its face, you are kicked in the stomach again.  It is the most horrible, dark feeling of sadness.  You will be run over with guilt on the days you smile.  You will be knocked on your ass more times in one day than you can imagine.  You will cry more than you have in your entire life prior to this experience.  Think about living like this for the rest of your life and living in a shell of who you once were.  Having days when you cannot face anyone and fighting against thoughts so depressing you have no idea how to get out of them.  Each commute to work and home is spent in tears.  Every song you hear reminds you of him/her.  You will be overcome with guilt for living while the person you miss will never have the chance to experience life again.

I can honestly say I understand how people give up.  How you hear stories of couples who have spent their entire life together and die of a broken heart, as people say, after they lose their spouse.  You just want to mentally and physically give up.  It is horrible sadness, devastation, fear, loneliness & anxiety all rolled into one monstrous emotion that you cannot control. 

How do you explain to people how horrible and dark your days are without them feeling awkward?  You don’t!  So you go about your day faking your smiles and making sure others are comfortable.  You see everyone living their lives and yours just sits there, repeating the hell, day in and day out.  You look forward to falling asleep because it is the only time you don’t think about your loss.

Doesn't sound like a story you would want to dive into, does it.

What if you had the chance to change a path in life?  What if you could potentially save your own life or another by sharing a story and change your mentality.  What if you could get another 40 years with the person you Love.

Would you do it?  You have a choice to make a positive impact on your health and others.

One share is all it takes!